A life lesson learned from kids being mean...

Yesterday my son came home from school and had his first bad experience from other kids not being so nice. Who am I kidding, “not so nice”, these were a couple of brats being mean. Now look who isn't being nice. LOL These are two boys who he has been friends with since they were all two in preschool together.

He tells me they didn’t want to play with him at recess so they kept running away from him. He told me they were being really mean and made him cry.

This just breaks my heart because this is his first experience with this. He hasn’t made any new friends in kindergarten yet and has been holding onto his well known friends. While he is telling me this sad story I am thinking to my self, “I need to be on that play ground so I can straighten these boys out.” Ok my thoughts were a little meaner than that but I am not going to say what I was really thinking. If you can’t tell I have gone into overprotective mom mode.

Now I take this time to teach my son a lesson from this very bad experience he has had. I explain to him that kids can be very mean and he is going to have this happen over and over again in his life. Heck who am I kidding; adults are just as bad sometimes.

Anyway, I go onto explain to him that they were not being nice and this is not how he should ever treat someone. I told him it isn’t nice to be mean to someone and he should remember this moment if he ever chooses to be mean and exclude someone at recess.

He told me he was going to yell at them if they did it again. I told him, he needs to make some new friends and just ignore them when they treat him this way. I let him know that if he just ignores them when they want to be mean this will be easier on him and he won’t end up crying and he can go off and play with some new friends. I did however remind him that if they want to play he needs to be nice and not exclude them as they did to him.

Honestly, I don’t know if this all went over his little head or not but I tried. I just hate hearing about him having a bad day and crying at school.

I know I had a tough time growing up, especially in my teen years because girls are so mean. I just want to shelter my son from all these bad experiences that I know he is going to have.

I want to raise my kids to be nice to others and to not treat people the way they wouldn’t want to be treated. I would like to believe that in the end the nice person will win out every time.